“In order to learn the most important lessons of life, one must each day surmount a fear.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Everyday is a lesson and journey in your pregnancy. I think I could literally have written about a lesson learned each day, but instead I wanted to focus on the key areas that made a difference in my world.
As a new expectant mom, there are so many questions, answers and just plain ole generic thoughts I have each and everyday concerning my healthcare, the baby and general pregnancy awareness. I’ve learned over these 255 days that one of the most important factors is to fully take charge of your own health and not to allow doctors, nurses, healthcare professionals or even family to distract you from what you may be feeling is happening with your own body. I believe as a pregnant woman we inherent a 7th sense that kicks into full swing the moment you conceive. This 7th sense or motherly intuition is one we should rely on when it comes to the health of baby and yourself.
Lesson # 6
The bureaucracy of dealing with hospitals, clinics, staff, doctors and nurses simply is astounding to me each day. Prior to this pregnancy I was never really hospitalized for any length of time, been prescribed medications or had to go through exhausting testing. However, with this pregnancy not only have I experienced hours of hospital time, I’ve also been exposed to all the inner functions of a “Big Business” hospital.
By big business I mean…any organization that has the ability to exploit, take advantage of or profit off the average everyday citizen. Now by no means do I mean to imply that this is the goal of every hospital, but I will say that it is a very lucrative business that capitalizes on people. I feel that in order not to get sucked into this system you as a individual have to
- “Take Charge.”
If I only had one statement or comment to share with you regarding pregnancy and healthcare it would be “Be Proactive” I had to consistently remind myself that this is my experience, my pregnancy and my life! These people all work for me, and trust me, once you see that medical bill, you will change your tune about how to deal with hospitals.
I have so many stories I could share with you that happened over the past several months. Anything from firing an entire team of doctors and nurses to contacting the CFO and CEO of the hospital direct to help solve a challenge. The reality is that, if my husband and I would not have been active participants in our own pregnancy, I don’t believe I would have made it this far in the pregnancy.
So what do I mean by “Be Proactive”…
1. Always ask questions no matter how small or big or seemingly irritating
2. Do your own research and be prepared to ask the appropriate questions to get the right response for your pregnancy.
3. Learn your hospital staff. Find out who all the key players are. Trust me one day you may need an advocate for your situation. We found out early on that knowing the right hospital staff can make your world a lot easier.
4. Be nice to your nurses and befriend them. They are a source of great information and they can really help you through your pregnancy. If you find one that’s awesome, keep him or her in your corner.
5. Understand that the hospital or mid-wife you select they all “WORK FOR YOU.” so don’t be afraid to ask for what you want or get the info you need.
6. Don’t feel rushed. At each of your appointments it’s easy to feel your being pushed through the system. Take as much time as you need to converse with the doctors and nurses about the health of your baby and yourself. This is why they are present. To provide the best possible healthcare. And if it takes a little extra time each appointment, so be it.
7. We all have different personalities. Everyone does not always get along and every personality does not fit well. For me, I don’t respond well to physicians or nurses that come across with the “God syndrome” or “listen to me, I know it all” attitude. So, at the end of the day, if it’s not a good fit, be prepared to find an alternative. Remember its your health on the line.
8. Keep and open mind and attitude
9. Remain positive
10. Devote time to prayer or meditation. Even if you are not a spiritual or religious person, I have found that having quiet time to reflect will often times ease your nerves and calm your spirit. It worked well for me and I hope it would for you also.
Always follow your instincts and be guided by your heart. I’ve learned that this innate gift we’ve been given will help us be the best mother possible. Rely on this and have a great pregnancy!